A question for single parents who have married other single parents..?

Communicate. Let him know that you feel overwhelmed - not unloving, just in need of some adult-only time. Babysitters are a good thing. Go out just the two of you and find out if you want this man in your life long enough for all the kids to grow up (then he's all yours!) Maybe you could arrange a romantic evening for two and invite him. (You might want to give him a few days notice so he can arrange a sitter.) He needs to know what is going on. He can't fix it if he doesn't know. And if it offends him, you'll be better off knowing it sooner rather than later. I think you will get along fine, but you do need to make your needs known and don't feel guilty about having normal needs. If you don't look after yourself, you won't be any good to him or his kids, so talk to him. Good luck and may God bless you all!